Donna, I hope your friend makes out OK. I know what kind of feelings it must bring up for you when you see your friend going through this Hell. I know when my best friends wife left him I ended up crying in my Pastor's office for two hours! I hope you're doing OK.
Thanks, wii...it has been a bit hard and has brought up stuff. But also another way to grow, to learn. I am just trying to be careful to not get too sucked in, so I am helping her collect a wider support network. She has been very embarrassed, esp since this is her second marriage and it was "supposed" to work. I made some calls for her today, to a few of her other friends, to her pastor, to her x. She hasn't told her x much (she was the one who left him back then, and now she is dealing with guilty feelings about what she put him through, to boot). He seemed genuinely sad for her.
I went to church this morning and got to talk with another friend who I got to know through our common divorce sitches. She is further along than I am, so it was good to touch base. I think it will hit a nerve for any of us for many years down the line when we are confronted with reminders of the journey - it is something that definitely leaves scars that bleed easily. But we get something out of sharing and helping, too - if nothing else, a reminder of how far it is we have really come.
It was a bit of a lost weekend for me, but I think I was were I needed to be. Work comes around again in the morning, and there are only 8 teaching days left, then one post-day. It will have me fully occupied for that duration, and then I can turn my attention to the other parts of my life. The kids and I are getting more and more excited about our trip to GA/FL at the end of the month.
Let me know! I'll drive to just about anywhere in the state to just meet you in person. You are a brilliant woman with so much love in your heart and I would love to just give you a BIG hug!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Gabe has re-friended the old girlfriend. She can't do that on her own - he had to either request her, or she requested him and he approved it.
What the he!! is up with that? Well, we know what is up with that...
Thanks for giving her a foundation for the letter, btw - knew you could put it into succinct words.
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Worked my hiney off again today - 7 more teaching days. My friend will be going home from the hospital tomorrow - the social worker has called her H to meet with them before she goes home. Hopefully the SW can lay some ground-rules down that he can respect.....like not sleeping with her if he is really set on leaving, like not following her into the bathroom, yelling at her about money, selling the house, etc.
I will know more about the itinerary on Wed.