ok, first, ghandi methed DOES encourage EXPOSURE.. you need to advertise to family and friends what he's doing to you and your home... And what this OW is doing to your marriage...
Second, your husband is an addict... Addicts LIE
Third, he's doing the yard work becuase he wants to BUY you OFF and so HE can feel LESS GUILTY
Tell him to stay OUT of the yard and you don't want his help...
Ghandi would not allow the british to mow his law either... Ghandi is about independence and maturity in presentation...
If he's moved out, tell him to keep away until the affair is over you and your children do NOT want to see or hear from him
Expose to friends and family that you want to save your marriage, but that your husband is cheating on you...
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All that BS he is shovelling you IS BS.. its classic excuses addicts make to justify cheating... refuse to accept it...
You cannot REASON with an addict... you CAN inspire CONSCIENCE by standing up for yourself and speaking OUT about what he's doing to the community
Tell your husband that there is only one way to resolve his mess :
1. It isn't doing yard work 2. It isn't buying your silence with financial donations to the home
The way he apologizes is to STOP IT and come HOME
That's the ONLY thing you will accept... the british out of india and the affair out of your marriage...
No compromises.. Ghandi didn't accept any, and neither should you
your husband my dear, is screwing with you and you are falling for it
Addicts are master manipulators and your husband is a classic case...
Out him.. FAST before he has sex with her, if he hasn't already... which may already be the case.. the LONGER you stall and hum and haw the WORSE this is gonig to GET
