I have a WAW. We're still living together with our little girl. the two momths prior to the D-bomb she began going out with friends, etc (sometimes with our daughter);then there were sleepovers; sometimes without C (Calla). It seemed to me to be "pretend single" as though she was experimenting with seperation. Tried couselling when the bomb dropped. After her solo session, she told me the counsellor told her "you're done and he doesn't get it". She told me she was on the fence but the horrible therapist gave her the validation. She has been totally incongruent in her behaviour. Very talkative about day to day things (no R talk); phoning more than texting now; and adhering to the week on-week of "primary parent" routine. Around the house she is quite considerate and does more 'small things'. In fact, she changed her BB Messenger status tp "Its the little things people do that show how much they care" My problems are many. I've tried to keep to myself and work on finding the old, happy me. Tough to do when your life is imploding. I felt I was in LRT territory so I went with that initially. But now I get the feling that she shes it as uncaring. Am I supposed to still try to be her best friend and be helpful (which only enables her "newly single" bhvr? Feels wrong. Yesterday, after reading the "small stuff' thing I was encouraged but then got hit in the face- she put her wedding ring in a kitchen shelf right beside my vitamins almost like rubbing my face in it. But said nothing. Just put it there. I'm seeing optimism and pessimism every day and quite frankly I'm beginning to confuse myself. I can't afford to phone a DB Counsellor so I'm crying out for some guidance. I'm afraid I'm beginning to give up and that's not waht I want or my daughter needs.
