Geronimo, I still do things with my wife and kids. We saw it as part of maintaining some kind of normalcy for the kids. We still celebrate birthdays, special occasions together and go to dinner periodically. Yes, my wife's decision tore the family apart but I'm not sure the way to deal with it is to be vengeful and cut off all non- business contact. Whether or not you live together you will always be a family to some degree! Now, does that mean you hang out with her every week or something? Well, no. I think that it's good for the kids to see that mom and dad don't hate each other. Now some people on this BB and in my other life say it's bad to do this but others think it's wonderful and wish they could have that kind of R with their ex for the kids. So, I dunno what the answer is. But I do know what you described about how nice it was to be a family again. I feel that way too when we're together but if you go home and are depressed for days because of it then it may be worth re-thinking your contact. Personally, I don't seem to have that issue afterwards, I'm just thankful that we can still be, even once in a while, a family. Now, I don't have anyone else in my life and my W has someone tucked away who she never brings around the kids, so it's no problem for us. Anyway,that's my rambling, take it for what it's worth.
say it's bad to do this but others think it's wonderful and wish they could have that kind of R with their ex for the kids. So, I dunno what the answer is. But I do know what you described about how nice it was to be a family again. I feel that way too when we're together but if you go home and are depressed for days because of it then it may be worth re-thinking your contact. Personally, I don't seem to have that issue afterwards, I'm just thankful that we can still be, even once in a while, a family. Now, I don't have anyone else in my life and my W has someone tucked away who she never brings around the kids, so it's no problem for us. Anyway,that's my rambling, take it for what it's worth.