Re-Connecting

[TimeHeals]

Look, I'm going to give you my harsh opinion of dating before your divorce is final and you are fully recovered from your M falling apart.

Now, I may not know a lot about marriage (my one and only attempt at it has been met with catastrophic failure), but I do know some things about dating, having prolonged my adolescence to well past 40.

I say not to date before your M is legally over and you are ready to put down that baggage because... you learn not to date women whose D's are not final or who are still carrying a lot of baggage... unless you want lots of crazy drama and hurt in your life.

That's one thing I learned while dating: don't open the next door until the last one is closed, and don't get seriously involved with somebody who does unless you want to wind up chasing your tail and maybe even having to get a restraining order or two.

So why not date before your divorce is final? You are not capable of being in a good dating relationship, and anybody experienced enough is going to know that, so who are you attracting? What are their motives? What is their problem?

I could say the same to people who have affairs obviously.

Now, I am not judging you. You can do what you want, and God knows I have made almost every mistake one can make in this area (hence the "experience"), but there's my 2 cents.