My Husband Just Left Me

[newmama]

I understand about not wanting to upset the bride and groom so you didn't want to let on about the truth of your sitch, but did he do anything YOU wanted?

Ok, maybe he didn't use you the ENTIRE night, but here are the parts that stood out to me-you sounded like you didn't want to do these things but did them anyway:

Today, as I was leaving my house. WH called and asked me to bring his ring. I was actually really annoyed with this but just brough it because I didn't want to fight.

When WH got there (we drove seperately) he called me and told me to meet him outside place so we coudl walk in together. I was kind of irritated with this whole idea but in a way thought it was a good idea because I didn't want to damper the bride and groom's day and make it more akward.

he was rude to you here:

Anyway, as he approached me I was smiling, he was not. He barely looked at me and just said "did you find a good parking spot" and "can I please have my ring".

We sit down for the ceremony and don't talk the ENTIRE time.

This part was good on your end:

After ceremony was cocktails which we kind of stood together for a mingled. I made a point not to ask him what he was doing or follow him. If I wanted to do something (get a drink, go ot the bathroom, go to new conversation with someone else) I just did it and didn't say anything to him. He kept telling me everything he was doing like "Ok, I'm going to go to the bathroom now" and I kept thinking, why are you telling me, we aren't a couple anymore.

He was just acting/using you- you did a good job answering the q's:

He kept acting like everything was normal, like "Oh yeah, our dog is such a handful". "We really love our house". For some reason this pissed me off - I felt like he could have answered the questions without using "we" and "us". That is what I tried to do - when people asked us when we were goign to have kids I would just say "I hope that I have a chid someday"

He was rude:

There was almost no conversation the entire night

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It was really awkward - he kept looking at his phone and all I could think about what how he was probably emailing some hooker.

you were just going along with what he wanted again:

Then towards the end of the night he said "when are you going to leave" and I said "I dont know but you can leave whenever you want". I just didnt understand why we were having to put up such a chearade when know one was really paying attention.

Finally I was ready to leave so I told him I was ready to go (since he made it seem like he wanted to leave at the same time) and he said "hold on, I'm going to smoke a cigarette with xxx first". I think I probably acted a little annoyed and said "ok" Two minutes later he came back and said "nevermind, you can just leave if you want"

this is good on your end:

So I gathered my things and walked out the front door where WH and friend were smoking and stood there for a second thinking he might still want to do his "plan". And he just said, "are you going to your car?" and I said "yeah, okay bye!"

You knew he didn't treat you with respect:

I think in my mind he would have made more of an effort to make me feel comfortable or something.

You did a great job keeping it together and trying to have fun regardless of your H, though!