Of course I didnt act like I didnt care !! But what I've discovered is that we were speaking two completely different " love languages" so the things I mentioned that I thought were showing her I cared werent what she needed to fulfill her.
At this point, I find it VERY hard to believe that she would actually be thinking about "losing me " to someone else. Especially considering the fact that she's SOOOOOO furious with me and that I " broke her heart ". She didnt give a damn about what her EX was doing for 14 years when he broke it. So why should I expect any different ??? Since you've been doing this so much longer then me, then by all means please explain how the 180's Im doing, which is mentioned SO heavily as a positive factor in bringing a WAS back is going to work???
You keep saying, " of course she's pissed, it took this type of thing to you to be the man she always wanted " sooooooooo what Im just supposed to NOT make the changes ???
And as far as that goes. Im not "changing into the man she always wanted ". I WAS that man and lost myself and am changing BACK to what she fell in love with in the first place.
As for MCing ?? Like I said, on some level that is what we're doing with the neighbor counselor, whether she realizes it or not. I dont think it occurs to her because its not " officially " MCing. But that is in fact the dynamic thats taking place as a part of our discussions.
