I hope that before you would even think of reconsiling you would want to get to a solid place for yourself. You are both 2 emotional wrecks right now and anything that would resemble getting back together wouldn't work. I mean wouldn't you want to get back together with someone because they wanted you versus thought of you as a way to feel better?
Hang in there, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ugh the ups and downs are killing me. Actually called XW this morning on the way to work. Need to not do that. Feeling like I'm whining too much.
Just out of interest, what did you phone wife for? Does she actually comfort you in some way? I'm guessing not but what did you want from that interaction?
I hope that before you would even think of reconsiling you would want to get to a solid place for yourself. You are both 2 emotional wrecks right now and anything that would resemble getting back together wouldn't work. I mean wouldn't you want to get back together with someone because they wanted you versus thought of you as a way to feel better?
Hang in there, kat
My priority for myself is to get consistantly on my feet. Yeah I agree. I guess I'd extend that to any relationship.
Originally Posted By: whatisis
Just out of interest, what did you phone wife for? Does she actually comfort you in some way? I'm guessing not but what did you want from that interaction?
Because I'm a big baby and and still need to make myself handle my own s#!t. I was down this morning, thinking about a variety of things, and it was - what - habit? That's not quite right. yeah, I wanted some sort of comfort, sure. Does she? Sometimes. This morning, not really. And that's fine.
She did call tonight and invited me to dinner with her and the boys. Haven't done that for awhile, and first time since the papers were signed. It was nice.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
How'd the training go? and how's your weekend going?
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Oh, it was OK. Was timely, career development training for managers - as I focus on propelling on to my next phase of life, career development is something to focus on. So that's good.
Weekend is fine, not a lot going on, torn between chores here (the boys DO want to mow the grass to make some money), or thinking of something creative for us to all do. I think I'm OK with staying home.
Yeah, had a dream that my wife was leaving me, then I woke up - and it wasn't all a dream. Dammit!!
I had one of those once. I woke up and thought "what a horrible nightmare" then I realized it wasn't a dream, it was now my life! I'm sure we've all had them, Geronimo.
OK - funny day. My son asked if XW could join us for lunch today, and she did - and ended up spending most of the day with us, out in the world. It was nice and normal. She said at one point, after all the painful things we've been through, it's nice to pretend that none of it happened.
There were those moments of familiarity, where she wanted a sip of my milkshake or my cup of coffee.
It was nice to feel like a family. It was nice to spend time with her. Not in a hopeful kind of way.
I'm not sure if this is good or bad. Is it cool that we can hang out? Is it unhealthy? I tend to believe it's good for the boys.
They were asking, eager to do things with "mom AND dad".
I guess I don't have the need to overthink it. (for once)
