If it's out of character for him please ask your sister to reach out to him to find out if there's something bothering him and if he needs to talk about it. She may have to offer (not push) this a couple of times. At times my daily frustrations resulted in my getting triggered by something little and turned into a huge argument and on top of that my STBXW got upset at me because I got upset. When I just wanted her to reach out to me and ask me a simple 'what's wrong honey? I'm sorry we both acted immaturely but I want to know what's bothering you so I can help you' - that never happened and the resentment built up over time on both sides and finally we stopped valuing eachother...
I think that Smart Sister does reach out to him, but he is often shutting her out. And plus you do not say that you hate your spouse and want to divorce her...then act like it's no big deal the next day. Even if said in anger there has to be some damage control there.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
