embracing change

[flowmom]

Thanks for your offer of help DG...it means a lot to me.

My current issues I am having with him is due to his anger and violent outbursts (minimal right now TG) due to H leaving and the raging hormones and body changes of puberty. (my H says I'm imagining the reaction to his leaving and that S13 will be fine with it...)

What do you feel his developmental age is? Is he verbal or non? Where on the spectrum do YOU feel he falls? I say "you" because what the docs see is often only a brief snapshot and kids like ours are so multi-faceted, it's difficult to get a handle on it.

S6's self-regulation is very poor, yet his verbal and intellectual abilities are very high (95-99th percentile for his age). So it's hard to say. He is extremely verbal and would most closely fit the Aspergers profile. But both the psych and the SLP says he has the skills...I just need to figure out why he cannot use them in certain situations (probably due to sensory and visual/auditory processing issues). They said that children who are truly on the spectrum would not be able to show those skills even under "ideal" circumstances. I don't know much about autism so I don't feel that I can challenge their assessment. But it sucks that S6 is not eligible for services because in some ways his functioning is pretty low and our ultimately our family pays the price.