Im treading a REAL fine line here, if I just " move on " then there's a VERY real likelyhood she will just use that as validation in her own mind that I never really cared.
Nope. Quite the opposite. She is moving on and it is making you become the man she always wanted. That in itself should tell you how good it works when a person shows they are moving on. What you say won't work for YOU is exactly what IS working for her to get you to make changes... Think about that.. It wasn't UNTIL she moved on that you had your awakening.. THAT is the way it works for most everyone. Your WAW included.
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You say me asking for the number for the MC is " pressure " I simply want to fact check and try to determine whats true and whats a lie.
Doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what SHE thinks. She views it as you putting pressure on her about getting MC'ing. Her responsse to you is evidence of that.
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SHE was the one that mentioned that WE " wouldnt be doing that for a long time "
She wouldn't have said that if she didn't think you were pushing for getting MC. THAT is why she said it in answer to you asking for the number. She was telling you to forget about the MC.. You are not reading this correctly and it is going to backfire on you. If she wants MC'ing she will let YOU know. THAT is how to handle it. It is by letting HER tell you she wants it and will make the arrangements. If not, you are wasting your time. Counseling only works if both people want it to work.
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But I'll say again, for her and her personality type and the way she thinks , if I show NO interest at all, then that will most certainly validate for her that I never really cared afterall. On some level she's testing to see how far and for how long Im willing to go to get her back, after 14 years I think I know most of how she ticks.
Wrong again..Why? Did you act like you didn't care for her in your relationship? That isn't what I remember you telling us. If you knew her so well you wouldn't have lost her in the first place. YOU ARE WRONG. Looks like you are the type that has to learn the hard way. Your choice. Don't say I didn't tell you, because I have.
I am trying to help you from making mistakes. AND you are making quite a few. You don't know her as well as you think. If you did you would have known she was going to live with her ex. etc. etc. etc... I would hope that you would listen to me because I DO know what I am talking about. I have been doing it for 20 plus years longer than you have been at it. Do it your way if you must.
