"I asked the kids to NOT tell me about their contact with him. Them telling me stuff was a form of contact! I had explained why I was NC (it was for me to find some peace) and asked for their help. It helped."


That is great WN! On one hand, I want them to feel that they can talk to me but on the other, it is pretty dang hard to listen and remain "detached".

Did your kids decide to not see OW or was it your H's choice?

M48 H53
M16 T18
S16 D13
SS30
H drops bomb PA/8-30-09
H leaves 12-30-09
D filed by H 2-10
H asks to come home 4-11
Piecing