but I need to protect the financial security of myself and kids.
I think you already know the answer. You wrote it above.
But I know sometimes it helps to hear what you know you need to do from an outside or objective point of view.
Yes, protect you and your kids financially.
Trust your gut. You know the situation better than anyone here could know, but we've all be in that situation where you have to do the logical thing, even when it hurts like hell.
Protecting your assets is a smart move....meaning, it shows that you respect yourself and your children not to jeopardize them or you. It will be hard but you'll feel a LOT better once you have that peace of mind.
And if protecting your assets upsets your H, then you know that he doesn't care about you or the kids. There's no relation bw financial security and love. If he wants to come back, he can and you can renegotiate finances. But until then, be smart and take care of yourself.
