As tough as this is, you need to step back and not make a decision out of anger or hurt.
That he has made it clear he won't be there to co-parent her just puts the ball more squarely in your court. I don't think there is a true "right or wrong" here. Just find a solution you will be at peace with.
What would you advise your daughter to do if she found herself in a situation like this someday (heaven forbid)? I have found this strategy really helpful to me a few times.
