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Greek, thank you for sharing your experience. I know it helps me to read what worked for you and Coach.

I have a question for you and Coach that I'm not sure has been asked or not. When you and Coach were separated, who was the one to try to initiate contact and how? Calls, letters, anything? When was it clear that the time was right to test the waters? I'm at the point in my sitch where I have been leaving my W alone and taking care of the things that need to be done. It's been 8 months and I'm unsure of what to do next. Continue to wait or begin to ask if she wants to talk, date, something?

It appears that you and Coach were only separated for 3 months before you moved back. That seems like a fairly short time given that most other sitchs tend to be much longer.

Thank you both for continuing to share your story and offer your advice.

Coach did not contact me at all - except about the kids and that was RARE. He let his L do all the legal talking for him. We went to MC and I said I would like to date, so...after some time went by, he asked me out. Really, it was I who did the reaching out after I left. He detached and got dark. Even though I was only physically out of the house for three months, we'd had the worst year and a half you can imagine leading up to that - and could not have been further apart. Before I left, I slept in another room for I don't know how long. Coach didn't start DBing until I moved out...and that made all the difference.
Greek