Hi, thanks for responding. I am really in a twist about this and only have a few weeks to decide before I am fined for not naming her yet!
I kept my maiden name when married.
I could give the baby our names hyphenated or just use his as a middle name, or just use mine.
I am really worried about upsetting his family, whose love and support I would like to keep.
I am also really angry at the moment and feel tempted to drop his name altogeather.
Also thinking if I give his name as part of a hyphenation, it might be a more positive way of starting co-parenting, even if HIS version of coparenting (ie. once a year visits + money) is not my idea of coparenting!!
I also just found out it is relatively cheap to change a name later on, but it requires both parents consent.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369