I will note something here for you QS... your wife isnt' looking at you?
There is guilt there, but she uses ANGER to suppress it.. this is classic psychology...
She has a lot of hurt and guilt in her, but as long as she focusses on hatred and anger she will not have to address the hurt or guilt... the more anger she has, the more guilt she has... it will eat away at her over time...
Just try to focus on setting an adult example so your exposure group will support you.. if you start fights with her and get nasty too no one is going to support you
