M&H, that double standardness runs deep in my husband too - in everything from me to our son not having and a Facebook profile because he is too young and rules are rules!!

Mila, you are doing so very well. You've taken back some control for you and your daughter. As J3B says 'life is all about how you handle plan B'!! Your husband is singing loudly from the MLC hymn sheet and you could track it. He is lost and hurting and still wanting to be with in your life. His actions show this.

The REALITY that you have to deal with is KNOWING that unless his MLC has ran it's course you and your daughetr will redo this time and time again. I think you know in your heart of hearts that your strategy is the right one - set him free to chart his course, live your life for you in the meantime (grow through the whole sitch) and then see how the land lies on the other side (whenever that maybe).

Keep choices there for when you need to make them. Dont burn
bridges all are within your gift.

((hugs))

lalxx

Last edited by lalxx; 06/13/10 12:00 AM.
Choose Life
Me: 45
Him: 44
S:11
D:8
Met in 1992
Married in 1995
Bomb drop September 30th 2009
Divorce final April 16th 2011
exH Marries OW June 17th 2011