Re-Connecting

[Fightingforher]

Well, I took some advice that I had gotten a week ago in this forum to try and give my W a kiss. We had some friends over and we were having some drinks in the pool and my W and I were flirting a bit. We started goofing around and she jumped on me, I went for it and gave her a kiss. She didn't seem completely grossed out by it but she wasn't all that responsive.

After our friends left I apologized for kissing her and i hope it didn't make her feel awkward. She said it was ok and not to worry about it. She then asked me if i was going out tonight. I didn't have any plans so she decided to go out. I'm not sure what she is doing but the past 3 nights she has gone out with "friends".

I then may have taken a few steps backwards tonight but I'll need some sound advice from you guys out there.

I mentioned dating to her and if she was to start dating to just let me know so I don't hear it through the grape vine. The 1st reason I asked is because I'm just not sure where she is at mentally right now. The 2nd reason is none of my friends know about our situation. I would hate to hear from them that they saw her out on a date.

She got upset and said that is the last thing on her mind. She asked if i was considering dating. I mentioned to her that I've been getting some attention from other women and it feels nice but I haven't acted on anything because I wasn't what we were doing.

It's been almost 3 months since we have been intimate and there are no signs of reconciliation. I'm not sure what to do, Is it time to start dating? Does that help me get my confidence back? Will it impact any chances for us to reconcile. The other issue is we still live with each other due to our financial obligation to our home.

Any advice would be welcomed...