Once a spouse goes wayward they build a wall and are resisting letting you IN...
Tell me about it. She is so disgusted with me that she can barely look at me. Her anger is so palpable about me contacting her "friends". In fact she told me tonight that she was just looking for "fun", something she says we never had in the marriage.
I am starting to see the point about not believing anything they say.
She's got so much "support" from her friends that it's like a man-hating group.
She will be away all next week, then home the week after, then away the week after that. If I can steer clear of her, and keep those other guys away, then I have 3 straight weeks of detachment to start with.
With respect to "support", I had to watch it happen myself. Went out so many times without me, with the ladies. Its like they didn't even realize she was married, just overlooked it. If I ever made a mention of it or a complaint, it was usually broadcast to that group and they would support whatever behavior and look at it like I was out of line.
The anger at you because she's cheating on you is something they do, its mental. Its real, you won't talk her out of it. To justify her cheating the female mind will usually make the husband as a bad guy. So you get to walk on the eggshells because your wife is cheating on you, doesn't sound fair does it? Experienced OM's know how to play this too. Some of the things that she says or does to you may be because of something the OM said to her.
Its why I said for know you are a bachelor. Its the correct state of mind, and in this state of mind you will have to look at it as thats not your wife right now. She is another woman who doesn't really like you very much and is nasty to you. This is a healthy viewpoint for you and will keep you from getting depressed. It is also a detached viewpoint, which you must have to be successful if you have any chance at all.
