My H takes my S to see his family once or twice a month and for the past 6 months I haven't gone. I don't know what he says to his family, and don't really have time to care.
But I have missed my S-in-L. She is a great gal, and we have a lot in common. I thought her daughter was in college already (she starts later in the month) and her son will be on the same fishing vacation as mine next week, with her H gone as well.
I called her today to see if she would have some time later in the week as I was thinking of visiting her and bringing Marina along for company.
Well, long story short, she knew we were having problems, and I expressed I would not be going down with my H any time soon (as he is too controlling on these trips). I told her I'd like to talk to her more about my sitch, but I pretty much got the feeling I shouldn't do that (from C's and books and things--not to involve family).
She said that the only thing she knew my H was saying was that he has been unhappy for a long time.
I am livid over this last remark. OMG!! HE's been unhappy!! What part of controlling your W and living like a freaking KING around here made him so "unhappy"??? He does what he wants,when he wants, runs ALL over me--I have FINALLY been able to reach behind myself and find a backbone back there--and this is what he is telling his family??
I have a mind to go down there and bring the pictures of my bruised and swollen face from the last time he touched me. They are from 6 or 7 years ago, but he threatened me only last Jan.
And wouldn't his family love to know how he started abusing his son verbally as well. What a wonderful guy he is.
They have no idea who this person is. None. He lies to them, pretends he is something that he is not, it's sickening.
My H wouldn't put up with being "unhappy" with me for a week, let alone MONTHS. What is this? What is he waiting for? If he's unhappy, why doesn't HE go get the divorce??? He is SUCH a martyr (sarcasm!!) Sacrifising his own happiness, doesn't he just win the Oscar on the fine performance he must be giving.
I am SO tempted to take my evidence and lay it all out to these people. Just how wrong is this. Don't I have a right to defend myself here? If he was so unhappy with me, why start a huge remodelling project. Why buy $4000 worth of appliances (that are rotting in the garage).
