Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[Piano]

Hi BD! HUGS TO YOU. I know what it's like with the birth approaching... in my case, feelings became amplified and the stark reality harder to ignore.
I know what you mean about enabling sick thinking.. My advice is, don't do anything that feels wrong or does not fit in with your principles. You will only hurt yourself. The truth is, WH is going to do what he's going to do in spite of what you do.. He's got his own operation manual. Don't live his sickness. Draw your boundaries.
And to respond to your last line, I am more hurt now than before the baby was born (although stronger at the same time..) and it's also much more complicated when baby is out b/c I think the WH's feel much more 'ownership' once they arrive.
Protect yourself, is all I can say.
Even though I still have hope for you two!