Ian - When I worry that I am thinking too much, I remember
Quote:
The unexamined life is not worth living.
They never said it was easier, though - looking at ourselves, striving for growth, that stuff is hard.
I remember reading here on the boards that most Rs do not last (hence, dating). I think those of us who were with someone a long time, built up a life with someone, we think that finding another R will be easy. I think it is actually harder - we know so much more, now, can read the red flags, and have higher expectations. I don't think that this is necessarily a bad thing, to be much more picky.
Some things are instinctual - it could just be that you didn't open up in these post-D relationships because you sensed that they weren't "it."
