Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

I am going to guess you are an officer of the law of some kind (based on your username). Would it be okay to assume in your line of work the way you deal with people is short answers and to the point information? I ask because it seems that is how you communicate all the time. Like when a suggestion is made to you, you always say "understood".

As I have mentioned in previous posts, I am typing from a blackberry, it is tedious and finger cramping so I try to be brief when given the opportunity.

I know you are trying and I think we can all really see that but it seems you are trying in a way that is not working. There are so many books out there that clearly spell out the male/female dynamic and the different ways men and women communicate. Why not pick up a few?

Any recommendations?

I do agree that IC would do you a world of good. It is very easy for an outsider to see the very unhealthy dynamic the two of you have but I gather to you it seems somewhat normal.

I have but unfortunately I do not have the financial support to go on a consistent basis.

Your W's chronic fatigue is something that must be addressed. It is telling she is a vegetarian and always tired. It is not at all uncommon for vegetarians to have chronic sinus and allergy problems due to the high amounts of dairy products they consume. Your W has little incentive to go get checked out because when she is sick you coddle her to no end.

There are many factors that contribute to my W's chronic fatigue. My W does not consume dairy products. My W has been a vegetarian sine the age of 7. Here chronic fatigue is something we've (me my W and her doctor) has dealt with since day one of the past 10 years (nothing new). FIL and other family members in W's family have the same medical condition but unfortunately nothing has helped remedy the situation.