2 weeks left to DB

[newmama]

am just feeling so drained..received another email from WH saying how loves OW, and how much he loves the baby. How we have "years!" to resolve our issues and 'differences'. He also told WH he will "fight" for access to see his baby (WHAT A TURNAROUND FROM A FEW MONTHS AGO WHEN HE SAID HE WOULD FIGHT ME ON NOTHING.
HOW THEY CHANGE ONCE THE BABY ARRIVES and they biond!!!)

Why would he need to fight? You aren't preventing him from seeing his daughter!

I was happy for him to bond if he was going to stay here and co-parent with me. How can I be happy if he has bonded and yet he is going to live o/seas & not help me at all (except financially, he says) and want to just DROP IN and see her once a year, and want me to take photos of her and send them to him, etc?????

I don't know how he can make you share moments and send photos of her! Your BIL or another of his relatives can take pics and send them! He is the one who is choosing to move to the other side of the world- leaving you two for OW. He is NOT understanding the magnitude of this and how much he is disrespecting you!

His signs of with this:
"I will miss my beautiful daughter very much, and I am already wearing the pain of being apart from her ...
But I also know that me being an incomplete and regret-ridden man will not make me a good father to her".

OK so this is very confusing: he thinks that by NOT running away with OW, he will be incomplete and full of regrets. WOW- just wait until he finds that when he does run away with OW, he is still the same! But his regrets will change to no be not staying with his daughter and rebuilding things with you, his wife!

So, off with the guilt he says, and to the life i want!!

yes all the waywards seem to have this mentality! What I don't get is why they don't realize they are unhappy until the OW enters the picture...oh and then they rewrite history to say they have been unhappy for years!

so they don't bother going through marriage counseling while they were supposedly "unhappy" or telling us, or even filing for divorce. WHen OW comes along, they agree to go to counseling and say "sorry but I tried. I still don't love you the way I used to and I don't think there is anything I can do stay motivated to saving the marriage." Then they throw D around; sometimes filing, sometimes completing the divorce.

I am speaking of so many of these cases I have read about or seen!!!! So many similar components!