Well, got more info on the incident with the OM. OM's W actually had her son write down in the journal he keeps what he saw and what was said.
Apparently the woman was changing in the OM's room and the OM was out in the kitchen. She hid behind the door when the OM's son came out to see what was going on. The son questioned the OM and he was told that it was a friend and that it was like a playdate, only for adults. "Now go back in your room and don't come out again".
I was kind of hoping for more of a smoking gun; like the OM being in the same room when the woman was changing. Seems like this would be an easy story for the OM to spin. This happened a few months ago, so he's had plenty of time to craft a story. He may have even preempted any potential revelation by talking to my W about it.
I may still give her the info anyway, and tell her she can choose to ignore it, and that I expect her to. At least it will give her something to stew on.
Confirmed today that the OM and my W are on a 4 day trip together.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09