Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

Good Antlers. Stressing about money a bit. I have the girls three weeks out of the next seven and want to get a lot in -- just hoping I saved enough to make it through.

SR, eventually, if you are the bigger man, I have to believe some semblance of the woman you married will emerge and feel sorry for her actions. It could be a long time. If you let it eat away at you and lash out then, like whatisis said, it'll feed into her fantasy of it all being your fault.

Easier said than done. I do great on this -- until I see STBXW.