No, if you email him telling him to start wriitng NOW it won't change anything...
Start the email off by saying
I do not want to hear your voice when I get there and don't want to hear anything from you.
I do understand you have things you want to say - so write them down in an email and send them. I will read them when I am ready to. This lets YOU say what you want NOW, and I dont' have to hear it until I feel like it. When I walk in the door I don't want to see you there or hear from you.
Start writing.
You can play with this all you want... I dont' think sending something like this will throw things off at all... It actually implies there's some hope which is what you wanted him to hear, even though you aren't saying anything specific.
