Thanks, Puppy and Allen, this is helpful. I'm leaving town this morning so I think I'll need to talk to inlaws via phone or email. I'm thinking I'll email SIL knowing that it will be shared wider. She's clearly supporting his mom through this. I think that if they know there's a chance, they will encourage (pressure?) him to work things out. That way I don't have to. If he comes back as a result of their pressure, is that a good thing? Or is that just where I start building the marriage?
I apprecaite the permission to leave it be for a week. I need to do that for my own sanity! When I do decide to talk to him, I"m not sure how to respond when he claims A is not the reason why things aren't working. I agree that there are things to change/fix with me and our relationship, but of course he's building a case to excuse D.
