Cause for alarm?

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"your right we cannot do this together its best we hire someone" and inject negativity? We can't do yard work together because w wants to give up

Not only don't you listen, you read what you want to read as well.

I said, "You're right. It would be easier to hire somebody" (I hear you) and keep on working.

You have a problem with that. You are not her parent. You sure as heck aren't mine. If you don't want to hear about why it is unhealthy to take on a parenting role with your own spouse, that's fine with me.

There's a line between being a responsible adult and taking on a parenting role for your spouse that you keep crossing, and it just isn't healthy.

Can you see a family therapist (pro-marriage) for individual counseling?

When she says something, try to validate it every once in a while. That means you have to listen. No second guessing, no fixing, to teaching.

Definetely none of this "Are you sure you only want to invite your family?" stuff. It's like telling her she doesn't know what she feels.