W said "No, I will just invite family" in a very depressed tone and I replied "are you sure? It is for your birthday"
Umm... you need to work on your listening skills here, I think.
She told you she felt like only inviting family, and then you ask her if she's sure as if she might not know how she feels. That's not very validating. Stop doing that so much.
Stand up for yourself, but learn to listen better.
Now... on the yardwork you did the same thing. Instead of saying "Yeah, it would probably be easier to hire somebody" (I hear you) and continuing to work, you started sounding like a parent trying to teach a child.
She needs a good kick in the butt, but if you are the one doing it nicely all of the time, that's not a healthy dynamic.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 06/12/1004:52 AM.
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