Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

Long day. Got out of work at 6am but had dentist app. at 8am. W called off work again just for the sake of calling off work. I had returned home from dentist app. W was up in bed. I went and laid in bed and attempted to sleep. I had asked W if there was anything on her list of things to do for the party she wanted to get down today. W shook her head no then said "I wanted to clean up the mulch in the front" I replied "We can do that, I will get a little rest then we can head outside" W then said "I can do it" so I replied "I know you can but if we do it together it will get done quicker and be much easier.

A few hours later I woke up then W and I headed outside. We cleaned up the mulch around the front yard (a lot of work). There were times when W said it was a lot of work and felt like stopping but I encouraged her by saying "I know it is a lot of work but WE can do this." W then made a comment about hiring someone to do it and I said "I understand why you would say that but we'll get it done, just one step at a time and when we're done it will feel good because we did it ourselves."

At one point W took a break to spray the dog with the hose, I joined then we got back into it and finally finishing up. In the past we W and I did tasks together I would always find something wrong with the way she was doing something and complain. This time like I have been for the past 4 months I was very patient and encouraging.

After W seemed worn out and just no longer interested in yard work but agreed to take a ride to the hardware store in attempts to locate a few things. We went and found nothing then headed back home.

W does not seem all that excited about the party so I would say "I'm excited for this party, we're going to have a great time" and her expressions and mannerisms do not match her words. See looks down and out or mopey in a sense but tells me she is excited.

W and I sat down and went over the invite list. W asked who else should we invite. I said to W "Whoever you want, invite <friend name from work>" and W said "No, I will just invite family" in a very depressed tone and I replied "are you sure? It is for your birthday" and with a little attitude W said "I said just family is fine"

I left it at that...

I don't know what it is but she does not seem all to happy about the party even though it was her idea but I am doing my very best to be supportive and interested complete 180 from the past, I did not even help plan our own wedding.

I seen that W had pulled a few of our wedding decorations from the basement and brought them upstairs unsure why...

At one point just before I left for work I had touched W on the leg and she moved her legs andhad a dirty look on face, I asked if that bothered her she replied yes. I guess I am pushing it, I need to slow down.

While I was getting ready for work, W asked if I could go down stairs and check on the dog. I did it even though W was very capable. As I was walking back upstairs W said "Thank You" in a loud pleasant tone, so I let it slide.

Just before I left, I said "bye" to W and she replied with the same.

While gone I seen that W did a thorough search on cosmetic surgery. This bothers me because I love W for what she looks like now, I don't want her to change anything. Also I think female co-worker is feeding my W to the point W wants to be like her.

I know in the past W had said after we had children she would consider different types of surgery but now it seems like she wants more work then ever mention done and soon. I want to have children and it now seems like that thought has moved from her head. I don't expect for my W to say anything to me about the thought of children I know that is far too premature for our sitch but to hop on my insurance to get "work done" ASAP is not something I am OK with.

Also I have been doing a better job of establishing better communication between us. At times when she uses sounds I simply say "I could not understand you" or "what did you say" W would then repeat and use actually words. hopefully she starts to get the point and break the habit.