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[awest1217]

I now know why I can't move on...because i will never be able to because H will never let me. Let me explain. H's youngest brother, BIL who hates me, had a GF who I became good friends with. She finally broke up with BIL after he treated her like H treated me. (she just graduated high school). She was very mature about everything and even sent BIL a nice e-mail before he found out through mutual friends that she was dating someone else. Now 4 months later, he won't leave her alone. She has blocked his number from her phone and now is going to get a restraining order. He just wants to get back together with her because "he has changed" and he doesn't want to loose her.

She told him on numerous occasions they could be friends, but he now crossed the line and won't leave her alone. I know if H and I did get D'd and I find someone else, he will do exactly the same thing. Although just like his brother, H will continue to act exactly like he always has, he will continue to pop up in my life and ruin any chance of any other healthy relationships, and the worst part is that I can't ever get rid of H. I can't block his number or anything else because of S. This is why I just stay. I stay so that I don't have to worry about him bothering me when I find someone else. At least this way...I have hope he may come home (although in my mind I know that will never happen and even if he did we would never have a healthy relationship, but in my heart I hope) and I don't have to worry about him bohtering me.

The venting from before, I got over it as soon as S and I sat to watch some TV together so it goes away very quickly when I remember I have S to help me, but if I moved on...I would not only be hurting myself, but also S, and any other future guy I might meet.