Are you willing to be divorced right now? WIll you follow through? Are you ready? If so, then yes- I support your decision to tell her that if she doesn't stop contacting OM you will file for D.
I reworded to "I will leave this marriage" and after todays MC session, WW knows I'm dead serious.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10