Need help Busting Affair.

[elvencat]

I don't know how you answered his "what if's" so I can't comment on those

1. "What if I quit talking to OW, I feel like she's a big part of my support network. What will I do instead."

We need to be each other's main support system. That is how a marriage stays strong. We can explore this more together so you don't feel isolated.

2. "I still do not want to go to a marriage counselor. What if I did and he tried to tell me what to think."

Marriage counselors aren't supposed to tell you how to think. If they do, they aren't good and we need a new one.

3. "What if we worked on our marriage. What would change?"

We'd learn how to effectively communicate to each other so that we can deal with any issues as they arrise and also so that we can know for sure that we are enjoying each other and our daughter together as a family.

1. You hugged him - E
2. You accepted his apology? - E if you did

1. hugging... yes... weak moment.... won't happen again until he shows me he's through with OW.

2. Not directly, but did say Thank You for admitting to starting the fight. Is that still an E or closer to a C- or D?

Ever see Mr Spock hugging anyone?

Didn't really want that mental image, but no.