About Father's Day.....it's YOUR day. Do what will make you happy with your kids


I feel your pain about the enabling family. My H's family doesn't want to "get involved since he's a grown up" or "hurt his recovery" so they mostly all stay quiet. I believe he is now getting a little bit of backlash but not much.
His mother has become such an enabler as well. Because she's so "scared" for him, she found it perfectly acceptable for him to end mariage on a phone call; she got her BIL's to help him move to summer house and is calling around family up there to get him work. She is even sending him money! As Gucci pointed out, I was an enabler as well and I need him to fail or succeed on his own.

Have you suggested something totally out of the norm as an activity both of you can do together? Think back to the happy days, was there ever something she wanted to try but life got in the way? Something to "wake" her up?

M:27 H: 33
M:10/07
T:9 yrs
H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010
ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10
Confirmed OW:5/21
Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery)
Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)