Filing yourself is kind of like 'taking back power'... but you're right Time, the only thing it's going to achieve is a sooner divorce... but it won't change the situation. Your spouse has still left you, whether you're tied by a paper trail or not.
I've gone through considering it recently, but two things hold me back:
1 - the cost of filing... I'd rather take the money required and spend it on my GAL efforts. Why waste $1,000 on filing when I could put that towards the cost of my car? Or more dance lessons? Or a personal trainer? Or some Ink? Or... what else can you spend that money on? I'll bet most of them make you feel better than filing.
2 - Closes the door - Honestly, if she was here today, I don't know what I'd do. If she came running back to me begging to work on the R... well, yeah, that's what I want... but until I'm in that situation I don't know how I'd react. And although I'm pretty sure it's all over and I may never see her again, and she'll probably never change her opinion of me... why close the door? While it's open there's a chance she'll open her eyes. There's a chance that things may change. Once the D is done, it's done. I plan on not being anywhere to be found once it's done.
When you weigh up the options, is it worth it?
Me: 29 H: 25 T:7yrs M:5yrs
Bomb: 23/04/10
Had no idea anything was wrong. Cheated so she could end it without talking.
