OK, the thing is... right NOW... she's wayward, meaning she does NOT want you meeting her needs whereas BEFORE she DID...

Once a spouse goes wayward they build a wall and are resisting letting you IN...

BEFORE is very different from right NOW...

What worked BEFORE won't work.. right NOW

Pursuing her right now you will look desperate and pathetic, NOT romantic...

Get her parents into the FT if you can.. THAT is going to help you a lot more than roses and candy right now