Just found out she already filed

[Gardener]

Romeo,

Technically I just need a couple of pots, plates, a bed and a blanket to survive

That's not the issue: that's all she needs, too.

Is it fair to me that she's taking this stuff leaving big gaping holes all over the house? could be is it fair to DD? likely not? will DD care? who knows...

You can fill gaping holes. You should fill gapijng holes and make the place your own and put your mark on it.

Going through the lawyers is OK with me but I think it was the letter from my lawyer which made her ticked off. Not that I really care. However, even if I told her she's not getting anything until the divorce papers are signed (since this wasn't in the temp or separation agreement) I'm only delaying the inevitable and the issue will need to be dealt with then.

Then deal with it then.

Furthermore, she may get even more upset and go after even more things...not that there are any guarantees that she won't regardless but that'll increase the chances. So I feel I need to let her win a few of these battles so I can focus more on winning the war.

One wins a war by winning the battles. Just stop giving her everything she wants just because she wants it and you - a nice guy - don't "need" it to survive.

Lastly, I'm being more than reasonable thus far...

And this will get you screwed.