I have a question to pass by you folks. It's been on my mind. I've been friends with this woman now for over 15 years. She's been separated for over seven years and the year I separated we called each other a lot and did things together frequently and there was no romantic notions involved for either of us, I'm sure! Last year she went through this phase where she just stopped calling me and didn't return my calls. Finally, I did reach her and asked if there was a problem between us. She said no, she was just being a lousy friend. I know she has depression and is on medications etc and has these times where she's exhausted and kind of puts off phone calls. OK, she's forgiven. I started attending her church because I thought it would be a nice way for us to spend time together, she stopped coming most weeks so I stopped. For a while, we kept in touch and went out, not as often as before but that's OK too. Now, for the past six months she's called me three times and each time I've returned the call promptly but she never calls back. Her last phone call said "I miss you" yet she doesn't call back. I decided that I've put a lot into our friendship but I have my limits, I am not willing to chase her around again because, to be honest, it hurts when someone seems to not be reliable as a friend. I understand she has issues but don't we all? I've decided to leave contact entirely up to her. I've chased before because I valued the friendship but I'm not willing to do it this time. Am I being too sensitive here? Sometimes I think I am but other times I think I'm just setting boundaries. It's up to her now. What do you folks think?
