Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

wii, don't leave me alone! I don't like being left alone

Gardener, thanks to you too for the wise words.

The thing is I don't really know what's fair. Technically I just need a couple of pots, plates, a bed and a blanket to survive but that's not fair...depending on who you ask. Can I live without the stuff she's asking for? sure. Is it fair that she wants things back especially the rocking chair from her childhood? I think so. Is it fair to me that she's taking this stuff leaving big gaping holes all over the house? could be is it fair to DD? likely not? will DD care? who knows...

Going through the lawyers is OK with me but I think it was the letter from my lawyer which made her ticked off. Not that I really care. However, even if I told her she's not getting anything until the divorce papers are signed (since this wasn't in the temp or separation agreement) I'm only delaying the inevitable and the issue will need to be dealt with then. Furthermore, she may get even more upset and go after even more things...not that there are any guarantees that she won't regardless but that'll increase the chances. So I feel I need to let her win a few of these battles so I can focus more on winning the war.

I was going to send her what Alice wrote tonight and I probably will. About the other stuff I'm thinking something like:

"Hi,
In regard to DD's school I'm not sure what there is to "clear up". She'll be in xyz public school district and xyz grade school in the fall. Please clarify what else there is to "clear up".

As for the phone bill, as I said before I'll pay you for the jun bill. You paid the old stuff on your own and while I'm appreciative of it I will not be paying you back for them. Just like I'm not asking you to pay back for a lot of stuff that I paid for (car/health ins, costco membership, DD's daycare costs from your side etc).

Lastly, I'm being more than reasonable thus far, however, if you take advantage of that then I'll cut off complete contact with you and go through the lawyers and let the court battles begin. You should know me better than anyone that if I set my mind to something I'll get it one way or another. Good thing is that I just want the divorce like you've always wanted so let's just get it done. Thanks."