What do you do about the hurt, and the disappointment, and the remorse, and all the other negative emotions that accompany awful situations like yours and mine? Do they go away in time? Do you just get 'over' them? What? I hate it...absolutely HATE IT...that I didn't get a chance, after the fact, to be 'this way' while she was still 'that way'. She's different now, as am I.
Again, no words of wisdom, just comradeship.
She first told me there was a problem with the words. "I've gotten an apartment."
As I've told my stepson (even though it was his mother) who also had recently suffered a heartbreak, "If you're woman's first indication of - expression of - a problem is with the words, 'I'm leaving,' you're f*cked."
While this may sound contradictory, I am still getting over it even though my thoughts throughout the day STILL revolve mostly around "I can't believe she F'ing LEFT me." And it's been eighteen months now.
Single biggest disappointment in a person in my life - from the person I would've gone to the grave believing would never do such a thing.
"What do you do about the hurt"? Endure.
That's what I try to do It's all I can do. And, yes, time.
peace,
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
