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Heartbrknga #2018506 06/10/10 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted By: Heartbrknga
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So many emotions to deal with. I go from guilt to sorrow to anger to resentment to compassion and back again

yep, and sometimes is all within a minute.


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M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Barkley #2019507 06/12/10 12:40 AM
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Haven't heard from her in a day and a half......nice


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Barkley #2021436 06/15/10 07:59 PM
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Talked to her 3 times in a week......me calling all three times to talk with the kids

FU@*ING B%#CH!


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Barkley #2021469 06/15/10 08:45 PM
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Get on here and vent more often.

Don't hold it all in.

Call your kids every night. Tell them that you love them.

Tell your W what time you will call each night so she doesn't have to answer the phone if she doesn't want to.

Your kids need to talk to you and hear how much you love them.

I don't mean to sound like you are neglecting them or anything. Make it all about the kids for now. Let her be however she wants to.
Hang in there.


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Thanks.....she is making me so mad


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Barkley #2022099 06/16/10 08:16 PM
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Well....the wife and kids will be back this evening. I am picking them up at the airport. Maybe my "real" wife will be the one that returns. A guy can hope can't he?


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
Barkley #2022152 06/16/10 09:39 PM
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Originally Posted By: Barkley
Talked to her 3 times in a week......me calling all three times to talk with the kids

FU@*ING B%#CH!


well maybe you should blame yourself a bit,
why did you call her 3 times, I wouldn't have called at all.

She still knows you want her back.

Let her go and live an awesome life with you & your kids.

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Originally Posted By: Barkley
Thanks.....she is making me so mad


No, you are making YOU mad.

Why?

Because you can't control what's happening.

You wished she was back and all this separation nonsense was over, you wished you had a loving relationship with your wife again, you wished you had a chance to do the right things but the truth is you're not perfect, neither is she.

Live a good life, make positive, lasting changes in your own life and lead your life in a direction that is worthwhile and has purpose and set a good example for your kids to follow.

If she doesn't want to be with you, its her choice, let her go, you can't force her and once you do this, you can let go of your anger and the stress associated with it, your life will get better when you choose to make it better.

I know its hard bro, I'm not saying it isn't,
get a hold of you and where you're going,
don't worry about where she's going,
if this is a big mistake for her to leave you then allow her to make that mistake.

robx #2022158 06/16/10 09:45 PM
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I know, I know.....just venting


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
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Barkley #2022613 06/17/10 03:53 PM
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Well, I picked the family up at the airport last night, and I guess it went ok. She was cordial and the kids were very happy to see me (as I was to see them). She even actually said how great the yard looked (I had some work done when she was gone). I just said "yeah, it needed it" and left it at that.

She is headed to her sorority reunion this weekend with my sister and some other friends. I will be taking my two boys fishing with my father and am really looking forward to it


M: 39
W: 39
Kids (3): S10; S8; D4
Married 14 years
Togethor: 18 years
Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009
Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10
Current Status: In counseling
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