WAW EA told her to leave

[DangerDave]

Hello again! Time for an update and I hope some more solid advice! So chime in if you have the time!

It's been about two weeks since my last post, and I have some updates!

The OM seems to be out at this point, the cells' been blocked and she has not mentioned it at all - she did have one slip at the gym class - thought he was on vacation and her girl friend was subbing as instructor and it wasn't. She came clean when I inquired and I simply and calmly reminded her of the NC clause that she agreed to - I said nothing else in terms of consequences - she said that she had complied with all the other "rules" and didn't know - I'll go with that - strike one in the back of my mind - but a check swing so to speak.

So onto my GAL and 180's - 180's are working pretty well I think, dressing nicely, looking sharp always, chatting with her about her work and biking, my new house hold routines continue, and working more closely with the kids - all which I like as well - nice to be part of the household!

As for GAL's - well this is where it kinda, maybe, sorta went backwards, I'm not sure really!!

1.So as part of my new life adventure I got a tattoo a week plus ago, first one ever, always wanted one and didnt tell her - was waiting until healed - she wanted to know why I was wearing a shirt to bed and just told her I would tell her later. Well Saturday afternoon it came up again and she was getting po'd that I was being elusive about it - so off came the shirt and there it was - she was a bit shocked and speechless - "it's your body do what you want" but she did want to know the significance of the design ect later.

2. That same Saturday she new I was going out to a dinner party alone, with some acquaintances, not close friends, that was part of a charity fundraiser - quite the upper class set as well - a bit above us actually. As I left dressed to the 9's she asked if I was planning on coming home that night and I said " I would assume so" - not a definitive yes, but not a no either.

3. That same Saturday night I get a text from her about her wedding rings - all four of them. Another respected member here suggested that since she was not wearing them anymore that I put them in a safe place, rather than the kitchen counter porcelain box she had one set in, so I took those and her other set in our vanity and put them in my dresser in a watch box. Well she found them later that night (another text) and when I got home everything was in their original boxes along with all her Tiffany jewelery as well, waiting for for me to have back.

4. I stayed out until midnight and she came downstairs and we chatted a bit - after I read the four page hate mail letter I found on the entry table (I'll save those comments for another post). I explained why I moved her rings and that I had no intention of "taking" them from her- well that didn't sink in and she would not take them back - another nice note was left for me in the garage with some biking gear I had bought her that said "I never want anything from you!"

5. Well I put the bike gear back on her bike and put the rings all in her vanity in the boxes she had put them in - didn't touch them otherwise. I did not say a word about any of it.

6. About 3 days later she got to one of my buttons and I didn't blow up but she could tell I was upset - really upset about one of her actions. She came upstairs, I tossed her my ring and said "that's I have from you" and she stormed out, came back and started in on the R and all the control I was pushing on her- well I managed to get out of that with some lighthearted humor about her setting me up and pushing my buttons, and we were both laughing about it when we were done talking.

7. The next day I noticed that she had gotten some of the bike stuff I bought and wore it to the gym - I said nothing about it. She brought it up that evening and I gave her a look of total bewilderment - she smiled coyly and said "what?" I think I told her she was driving me crazy (in a nice way).

8. Last night she had to stay at her moms (medical reason) and I saw that she took her rings and bracelets with her - we had a party to go to that night - we had to arrive separately,I was looking very nice as was she, and she had her rings on. I told her privately that she looked beautiful and kissed her hand - trust me a 180 here for me! The rest of the party went quite well and we actually text-ed that night back and forth quite a bit - another 180.

9. Today things were ok when I got home, she was a bit stand offish, I think because she may have felt she let her guard down too far the night before. As she was heading out to shopping though, she asked why I had gotten new colonge - I said I had been using my old stuff (which she bought) for quite a while and just wanted something new. She stormed out and sent me a text 5 minutes later that said "BTW as long as we are still married, I will wear my wedding ring out of respect"

Ok so now what the hell - am I doing things right, wrong or a mixture - I can't tell what end is up or down and I think I am going crazy with this dam woman I love!

Advice or suggestions - sorry for the long post!!

DangerDave