So she's keeping score of ever single little thing she purchased or that she wants or that I owe her but she won't see anything that I've been paying for. Maybe I should tell her she owes me x amount for the car insurance, medical insurance, DD's daycare I paid on both sides etc etc. Am I being a doormat if I keep saying 'sure, what else would you like' and she just keeps asking and taking more and more. Besides if she takes a lot of the furniture that means DD will be upset since now even the house will start to look different.
Need some input guys...I'm split between standing my ground for my own dignity and just paying her off to leave me the hell alone.
SR, that's why I got a signed Separation Agreement before I left, all that's stuff gets decided and is in writing, not that that helps you right now but...Anyway, why do you sound surprised that she's counting every single thing and is carrying on this way. Hasn't this been the pattern? My advice is to not worry about being a doormat but think about what is fair. If you feel that she's asking for too much, taking too much then address it in a CALM BUSINESSLIKE manner. Remember this process is like a funeral, people get really strange when they start splitting up the deceased belongings. Your M is the deceased and you'll get the same weird, angry, bizarre behaviours. So, just try and keep centered on what is honourable and fair, you can't go wrong when you make decisions based on that, it can go real bad if you base it on emotion. Hey, maybe she shouldn't get jack sh!t until the divorce papers are signed, isn't that where all this stuff should be itemized anyway? Oops, is that my emotion talking! Lastly, and then I'll leave you alone, remember you will always be the bad guy in her eyes, that's the way she gets through this, just let as much of it slide by as you can, retaliation only feeds into her fantasy. OK, I'm gone!
