Are you willing to be divorced right now? WIll you follow through? Are you ready? If so, then yes- I support your decision to tell her that if she doesn't stop contacting OM you will file for D.

If not, then if she doesn't stop contacting OM you need some space to think about your future.

yes, Red, I thinkit makes sense- if our WAS do not see us as their priority, then we shouldn't be treating them as ours! But is OW/OM playing that same game? I don't know....

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004