I need help in the biggest way. I feel so helpless

[timehealsall]

Also he has been very nice. Don't know
if it's because he is happy that we r going through with this and this
is what he wants or the fact that i've remained calm and been 180ing and only texting regarding kids really.

He took s5 to a baseball game and I suggested
that s sleep at his place. He agreed. He sent me pics of S (who
caught two balls!) and then today he has been texting me throughout the day

it seems OW hasn't told him about our convo. He hasn't said anything. It's not like him to keep that to himself.

We text regarding s and then he text me asking me if we are going to
do this in a civil manner or not. We went back and forth and I told him I was only looking out for the kids and I never said I wouldn't help get us out of this debt.

He then said that all he has wanted is to get our life
back and the kids back to normal and get our lifestyle back. We just went back and forth. I kept myself short but precise. I told him that alot of the problems we have had would have been avoided had he been honest. He said he had been and asked me what would I think he wasn't honest about.

I then said that we will do this in a civil manner and that i would have a paternity test for D and i want one for OW. He didn't acknowledge that part of the text.

He then said that he has never been a person trying to hurt me or take anything from me. That he has have a good Heart and always said he would never leave me out there but he feels I am after 11 years.

I then said this. (sorry my fingers hurt from typing lol)

No I'm not. I just wish you would have been honest with me H and told me your intentions. You played me along. I know you're confused but whatever happens, it's going to affect me and these kids just as much as you. It's like you're trying to handle everything on your own.

And this

I know that this whole business overseas thing got out of hand. Maybe you're trying to handle it on your own but it's not working. You need to be honest. I won't punish you for
Being honest.

Then he said

I have not played anyone along and I have been working and trying to get things back on track. it's just hasn't been working. everthing has come down and I'm not selling drugs. u r crazy

and I replied this and he never responded to this. Only sent me other texts about S and what they were doing and asking what I was doing.

Yes but you made me believe that we were working on us. That wasn't true or your intention. I wish you would have been honest. It would have caused alot less problems for us.