Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[elvencat]

Sorry QS. I have to say that since she seems intent on running so far so fast, I'm not sure what I would do in your situation.

You don't list any children, so you don't have the same type of anchor I do. In my sitch the only thing that's kept me hanging on so strong is that I fully believe that when two people bring a child into this world together, they should do all in their power to keep the family home sacred and raise the child together in the best environment possible.

I actually have told my H (in a mistaken belief that it would "wake him up") that I would have walked away long ago if it weren't for my belief in family sanctity because, even though I love him and am fully willing to own up to my own mistakes and work through our issues, he has continued to lie and manipulate me and act as if he doesn't have any responsibility to do anything about it. I'm holding on for the sake of my daughter at this moment. If there comes a time when I think holding on is hurting her worse than letting go, I'd probably do it after much consideration.

Don't know if this helps you or not, but I think you have to decide for yourself if holding on is worth the pain more than letting go. And if you let go, hope that by doing so you get to a point where you can accept you may not ever see her change her attitudes and actions and you can move on.