Goodness, I know you have your mind made up, and you are a "stick to your guns" kind of gal, but...
I see this as incredibly positive. You are bubbly and "cute" through your posts--not so "mom" and "schedule" and "businessy".
IDK--it's a new "vibe" and I think just a couple of weeks is not enough to explore this one.
If you have had this "vibe" before, I hope you'll post when because I have tried to read a lot of your thread, and this is different. You are not mindreading, obsessing, etc. Just...having fun and BEING fun.
Ziplineing is SO fun--I hope you feel better tomorrow!! You will LOVE it!
Thanks Red- yeah I wonder if I need to say anything like "Oh I was going to ask you about the paperwork! You know, I had hoped we were going to work things out but since it doesn't look that way I accept it. I'm ready to find a great guy who will help me raise S!"
How does that sound?
Anyway the dr. wouldn't take me! They said it isn't bad enough yet. If I were like OW, I would have lied and told WH that I had an appointment, just to make him come over here, then went somewhere and came back. BUT I'm me. (yes, I lied about ziplining tomorrow so I can't claim to be a saint!) So I told him and said "thanks so much for offering to watch S though. I really appreciate it!"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Laura- my ziplining won't be until July 10! But I decided to tell a (white?) lie to WH just for the point of shocking him and letting him know I am going to be doing it. It was kind of dumb to say it was this weekend since I could have just been honest! Live and learn...this didn't hurt anyone.
And thanks-another friend told me that at least I sound like I am enjoying myself with this little game playing thing. I assured him that each day I force myself to think of my single life future and how I will meet a great guy and have a fun summer. Then I get to go back to work and continue adding to my life! I won't think about how it affects S........
You know, the minimum I am doing for sure in July is at least inquiring about the paperwork. Again, I want to discuss the whole thing with my therapist and then may post it here!
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
NM, there is NO WAY you can white lie about ziplining--it just cannot be done.
I do plenty of "white lie" stuff to get my H to sit up and take notice.
But this is a big deal--the emotion, the feeling--you can't "make it up". It will affect you in ways you don't understand if you have not done it. It will be "fake" to your H and seen as manipulating. And he will definitely smell this one a mile away.
You have the perfect excuse--say your throat was too sore. And just to let you know--it is HARD WORK. We took a friend who wasn't feeling really well and he PUKED everywhere--it was awful.
This is going to be a BIG experience that you will remember always! I'm not saying it's the same as giving birth or the day you were married, but....it's a pretty big deal. Like going up in a hot air balloon for the first time or something.
Delsum for a dry cough, ya know the kind that hangs on long after a cold. It takes awhile to kick in. Chloroseptic spray for throat. Tastes terrible but stops hurting right away. Even my kids request it!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
Laura, I had not intention of ever pretending I did it! Just wanted to find a way to let him know I was going to do it! I planned all along to let him know it got rescheduled. Dumb, I know. No more of that!
Now, I just got the hiking carrier for $30 thru craigslist at a nearby house. Tomorrow I will ask H to put S in it so I can make sure it feels right- duh (for real) I should have done this at the house! But I think that WH will have to touch me in order to help me, lol!
And I am going to practice putting S in but at the same time if WH asks me how I will be doing this by myself I will tell him "I won't! I will have someone to help me!"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
WN I found you too! I see why your H was checking you out, lol! Just updated a current profile pic but it is a cheesy cell phone one taken in my bathroom, haha!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
[quote=ken5140]Yesterday evening when I got home, W told me she was going to look at an apartment in the morning. I said, "I'm sorry to hear that." I said, "I just want you to know I'm gonna miss you if you go."
Later in the evening, she asked me, "What will you do if I stay and try to work things out with you?" I said, "I would make sure we spend quality time together and do fun things together."
Wow! Powerful... NM, i agree with coming up with a breezy no-pressure, but i wish you wouldnt file way of responding...
