Peace you are in such a difficult situation. On one hand I bet it feels good no drama from your ex but on the other hand what a loss for your kids.

Keep in mind your h is really sick right now. I am sure the depression and drugs keep him so alienated from the world that he can't surface right now.

He sounds like he is in a spirtual battle for his life. Have you done much reading on that subject?

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"